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4月9日 How I feel about SuperstoreI hear everyone around me saying these things day after day. Here are my complaints about my job.
1. The grocery supervisor 1, can't count to five. he can't read a bulletin board. He can't read a calendar. He can't write a schedule properly. Why isn't he fired? Or at least shrink his workload to the things he does successfully. No, I don't know what that would be.
2. We need a bigger staff. We have lots of work that gets left behind on a daily basis. People get sick and go on vacations, they get pregnant. People have lives and deserve them. Get part timers in to fill in the gaps. We need a supervisor on evenings, or a full timer.
3. We need better pay. If the only people you can hire are people who can't speak the language you've got problems. Because once they learn the language they quit.
4. When something goes on sale find out how long it'll be on sale. Talk to the companies and ask them. Create a stronger bond between your suppliers. What's the point of buying lots of product after a sale instead of before or during?
5. Responsibility. Employees need to have a certain amount of responsibility. Let them have some control over something to make them feel they are contributing to the bigger picture. It gives them confidence and let's them feel like they can make a difference.
Hehe, I know that no one in my company would listen to me, afterall when I tried to go to school I was told I'm full time and can't restrict my hours so if my boss wants he can change the schedule so it overlaps my classes or finals. 3月12日 Kink: The Art Of WooingYet, there is a fundamental difference between stalking and real wooing, as anyone who ever has been truly considerate of someone else must know. One who sincerely considers another person's thoughts and interests should figure out the difference when the other person is being wooed or being scared. Unappreciated attention would be the extreme opposite of wooing because it is entirely ignorant of the other person's feelings.
Judging from the misunderstandings that can happen between people, the lost art of wooing might be seen as something too quaint and indirect for our enlightened age. Information, rather than empathy or emotion, is the preferred method of communication.
Maybe it's because of this attitude that people have forgotten the delicate beauty of the woo. Sweet and sincere gestures of appreciation seem to be feared in this intensely private and alienating society. No one wants to expose the innards of one's heart. Our natural instinct seems to be to insulate ourselves from potential injury.
Wooing is an activity that requires a measure of courage in that kind of environment. Doing something for someone else that requires a great deal care and thought can put a person in a vulnerable position. Everyone who woos risks rejection or derision from the person for whom they want to express their appreciation.
No one should let this fear discourage them. Life becomes art when we practice the art of wooing. Out of sincere expressions of love and care, one can live one's art.
Viewing life as an adventure of true love takes practice. Expressing love passionately through words and gestures forces a person to be continually aware of their surroundings. Many opportunities come up all the time to practice the art of wooing and to celebrate that expression of love: at work, over coffee, in bed.
Every moment of the day can be art.
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The first time I heard about the slight difference between a wooer and a stalker I've always played things way too cautious. It's so easy for a woman to yell rape, and sometimes it's easy to be misled or manipulated into a situation where everyone can get hurt. The strange thing is...When I actually try to woo I don't think the girls I woo recognize what I'm doing. It's like everything I do is simply expected like the sun coming up every morning. It takes a lot of work to listen to everything a person says, what they like, their interests. And then to find things that might make their goals easier to reach. I guess that when a girl does recognize I'm wooing her there is a bigger reward that we both feel. 8月1日 Thank You Ruoruo & Happy Valentines Day :D
http://metrolife.chinadaily.com.cn/leisure/fest4.html
The Seventh Evening Festival---China's Valentine's Day
The seventh day of the seventh lunar month is the Seventh Evening Festival, also known as the "Double Seven Festival". Origins: According to a romantic Chinese fairy tale, the cowherd and the weaving girl meet on the evening of the Double Seven. As such, the festival is also known as China's Valentine's Day. The fairy tale has it that the milky way separates the hard-working cowherd and the weaving girl, who are very deeply in love with each other. It is only on the Seventh Evening Festival that they can meet. On that evening, the world's magpies form a bridge over the Milky Way so that the lovers can cross over and meet. This beautiful tale has its origins in the Han Dynasty (206 BC - AD 220). All Chinese people are told the story when they are children. The festival is also based on an annual astronomical phenomenon. Every year on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month, two particular stars are bright in the night sky and shine until the sun rises. One of the stars is thought to be the weaving girl and the other the cowherd.
******************8 It'll take me awhile to get used to this new change here yet again... 6月23日 Choas WarmingOkay, so in chaos theory a moth's wings can start a huricane from half way around the world. What if the moth realizes that it is the catalyst for catastrophe? What if we replace moth with giant greedy corporations that know they are warming the planet and causing weather spasms? Can or would corporations stop messing with the globe. Or would it be beyond their ambitions? Oh well at least governments won't stand up for the planet so it's all good! 6月18日 Check out April 25 by MoniqueMonique has an interesting and pretty happy outlook on life. An almost complete opposite of myself. It's good to get other people's perspectives, well, I think it keeps me healthy anyway. 6月17日 Happy Father's DayI just heard that a friend of mine unhooks and turns off his phones and pagers on Father's Day not to spend a quiet day with his family but so he doesn't discover that he has more kids. The Teachings of EpicurusEpicurus' philosophy is based on the theory that all good and bad derive from sensation: Pleasureable sensations are good, painful sensations bad. Although Epicurus was commonly misunderstood to advocate the rampant pursuit of pleasure, what he was really after was the absence of pain (both physical and mental, i.e., anxiety). Although Epicurus believed in pursuing pleasure, he was by no means a hedonist in our modern sense of the word. He explicitly warned against overindulgence because it often leads to pain. For instance, in what might be described as a "hangover" theory, Epicurus warned against pursuing love too ardently, as it often leads to pain. However, having a circle of friends you can trust is one of the most important means for securing a tranquil life. Epicurus also believed (in contradistinction to Aristotle) that death was not to be feared. According to Epicurus, unpleasant sensations cannot exist without pain. When man is alive, he does not feel the pain of death because he is not experiencing death. When a man dies, he does not feel the pain of death because he is dead and, since death is annihilation, he feels nothing. Therefore, as Epicurus famously said, "death is nothing to us." *****************************
It's interesting to hear about this style of teaching, and also of it's sort of deaths and resurections. 6月5日 My Slow Researchhttp://www.thenation.com/doc/20060605/power
Well, I guess I'd like ten things to be my little pyramid of steps to take in a religious way, and Samantha Powers has a good beginning here. My Slow Research: SatanismAwhile ago I said I'd look a little deeper into Satanism. It's been a slow slow struggle so I'm trying to find out what I can about a guy named Anton LaVey who supposedly has an outline of what it means. Apparently it's a lot of people trying to climb the food chain be themselves a damn the enviornment and the well-being of everyone else. So far I think I've seen many Satanists on TV and in charge of corporations. I don't like the Christian Movement way of living, but this Satanist stuff seems just as wrong and just as extreme. I'm going to give Satanism a bit more of a chance, then I'll look for a relgion that wants to help societies as a whole. I'm still unsure about the difference between a philosphy and a religion...But slowly I might find results. 3月30日 Looking For The Fountain Of LoveSome girls have asked me what my favorite love songs are. I don't really know if I have any. I just don't really think about it much. I don't have this particular song by Nick Cave and I don't really know how to write love songs. I don't know how to bring out the poetry in the things I see. I see things mostly in black and white I miss the rest of it. If I find the inspiration for love would I be able to express myself in a coherent fashion? I'm told that in the days of the old west many people took classes on how to woo the opposite sex. I'm very good at being myself, although, I'm not in touch with my romantic side so it's very weak. I'm starting to see this as a weakness only recently and as a weakness I wish to strenghten it. I don't know how. I don't wish to use cheesy lines, unless I feel they're firmly directed at one specific girl which means shaping each phrase by hand no mass-producing pick-up lines. Nick Cave Lyrics I hold this letter in my hand 3月26日 Small-Time Celebrity: Blog-StalkerI've often thought about small-time celebrities. You know, is it cool to say, "Hey I loved your blog!" out in public? Is it different if the girl is on MySpace or a porn blog? How do you know what's appropriate and what isn't? Should there be anonimity? If you give out personal information are you expecting to be recognized? ***************************************
Firstly I think it’s important for us all to remember that the words we write might be written with one intention - but that they can be read and interpreted in a very different way. The blogger who wrote the posts that triggered this chain reaction did not intend for this to happen and could not have foreseen it. I don’t hold them responsible for it and as I say we’ve resolved our differences. However it has made me think twice before posting about other people since. Secondly I wanted to remind bloggers to consider their personal safety. While I’ve seen a number of articles in recent times about how to keep your blog safe and secure from hacking and accidental loss - it’s also worth considering how to keep yourself (and those you live with) safe and secure also. When you write in a public forum you are doing so with the hope that people will read you. The unfortunate side of this is that you have little control over the perceptions of others towards you and that from time to time people will disagree with you and even become agitated towards you. This is both one of blogging’s biggest strengths (ie the conversation, diversity and dialogue) but also one of it’s biggest weaknesses when it goes to far.
http://www.problogger.net/archives/2006/02/07/blog-stalkers-personal-safety-for-bloggers/
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3月16日 PSA: Drugs You Gotta Luv Em!!Young Girl: I've started feeling better for the first time in my life!
Twenty Year Old Male: I can finally sleep and wake up feeling rested!
Thirty Year Old Pot Smoker Female: My memory has improved and I'm thinking in a clearer way!
Announcer: You might think we've discovered a new drug, well you'd be right!! These people have thrown away the drugs their family doctors have prescribed to them, we've shown these people how to excercise, eat healthy and do simple mental excercises that everyone should try to do. By learning how to focus and relieve stress through a variety of excercises we've given these people a new lease on life! We've also told them what ingredients in food to ignore.
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Sorry, I just think it's really funny that the same people who poison us give us drugs to supposedly cure the disceases they give us. But not to worry the drugs have side-effects to keep us buying products from them. Why does this sound like Monsanto?? You buy our seeds, we in turn own your land, but you still pay the taxes. I'm kidding. Big Business would never betray their costumers out of greed. Big Business would never get costumers addicted to products, and besides, they would never buy off institutions that are supposed to do product-testing...would they?? I really hope someone wakes up and sees a problem and starts throwing these freaks in jail. Countries should try to make things better for as many of their citizens as possible not destroy them. 3月1日 The Mirage Of Marriage"I predict that as the cost and availability of travel and communication become more accessible around the globe, more Western men will come into contact with traditional, non-Western women and immediately notice an opportunity for a happy marriage. For American men this is most likely to be a Mexican or other Southern American woman, for British men this may be the Southern or Eastern European woman, and those lucky Australian men have a vast population of Asian lovelies right on their doorstep."
http://sandiego.indymedia.org/en/2003/10/101231.shtml **************************************
I've noticed this in myself, and in many others. Women with higher standards aren't thought to be worth the battle, and when there are places where women are more realistic about what they want and can get then why not go for that instead? Personally, find a girlfriend, spend money on her, woo her, find out she doesn't love you, try again...It just seems like a giant waste of time, money, and energy. I've been burned enough times, thanx. I've known many guys with three kids from three different women and none being the guys current girlfriend. Why? Why would I sacrifice my independence to crawl on my hands and knees hoping my wife doesn't divorce me? I never say, "she's my girlfriend," I never say, "I'm on a date."
Hehe, I like porn, if a girl can't stand it, whoops bye bye. I like comic books, and many other unpopular non-girlie things. I don't see a point in catering to woman. My biggest problem is the only thing I've ever really wanted to change in a woman is to make her more tolerable of my habits. And don't speed up take up two lanes to make a right turn and then slam on the brakes halfway thru the turn. Of all the women I've met, these are the two biggest things. Ok, lying is also very bad.
Well, it's supper time!!
And, oh, this was supposed to be sexist against women. Aaah, I got a few days left to do that, eh? 2月14日 Happy Werewolves DayThe Evolution/Devolution of Valentine's Day
A very small excerpt.
Scholars generally agree that such a violent expression of eroticism celebrated the ancient behavior of primitive hunting tribes corraling captive women. Once a wolfman had ensnared a woman with his whip or thong, he would lead her away to be his wife or lover for as long as the “romance” lasted. Perhaps, as some scholars theorize, this yearly rite of lashing at women and lassoing them with leather thongs became a more acceptable substitute for the bloodlust of the Luperci’s latent werewolfism that in days past had seen them tearing the flesh of innocent victims with their teeth. As the Romans grew ever more sophisticated, the Lupercali would be celebrated by a man binding the lady of his choice wrist to wrist, and later by passing a billet to his object of desire, suggesting a romantic rendezvous in some secluded place.
****************************8 The part after this is also very interesting. Valentine's Day has changed a lot hasn't it? 12月18日 Kids Of PrinWell I just spent some time with Prin (not her real name). I really don't know what to say to her I just end up listening and watching. I could never force feed my kids till they cry. I could never get angry with them for peeing their pants when they're under five. I could never demand people to spend their hard earned money to make my life better because I don't have the funds to make myself more comfortable. I usually try to at least pretend to be tolerable of other people, but Prin...Prin, I just think someone needs to give you a big b-slap and tell you to wake up, kids get bored and are barely in control of their own bodies. Kids get bored faster than anyone else, but it isn't hard to distract them. When they're hungry or starving they'll bloomin' let you know. It gets cold outside, please bundle them up and their freakin' ears. I don't feel I have the authority to tell you these things in person. And when authority figures tell you to ease off you don't listen anyway. I have no kids, and don't want em till I feel I can afford em and feel I'm responsible enough to have em unless well accidents happen. 10月21日 Why did she break up with me?I just met a girl who broke up with me like five years ago. I mean there I was with my job living in my parents basement, good times. She was living with her best friend in an apt. She was learning French and had a govt job, Me I was working at a dead end job and learning Japanese. Fast forward to the present. She is working for the govt going to be wed next year to a lawyer, and me? I got my dead end job and still taking one small class a semester.
Seriously, what does she see in this guy? I'm the one with the job, he doesn't have one! He's got a career it's totally different. I'm going to university trying to educate myself, he isn't. I'm so totally a better catch than this guy I mean really whose she kidding. I know she wants me back.
Maybe I'll buy and listen to an old Robert Johnston cd. No, not Robert Johnson the blues guy, I said Robert Johnston the white guy man, you really are ignorant aren't you? Grrrr.
Maybe I just need some better drugs good night cruel world.
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I don't get it I thought I wrote his name down right I'km too laxy to double check though. He played with the Buthole Surfers though.
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Aaah, Daniel Johnston. |
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